Disrupting Our Whiteness Program:
Finding Wholeness in Resistance
Building long-term relationship for
connection, accountability, and support
In This Program We Will:
Foster community to dismantle the myth that we can do this work alone or in isolation.
Practice reaching for white people using strategies that connect us in long-term community, as opposed to shaming and blaming people out of the movement.
Delve into the power of questions and real-life scenarios to deepen your BODY's (not just your mind's) analysis of anti-racism.
Explore how our own and others’ trauma and oppression are ultimately linked to white supremacy culture.
Practice centering POC in a room even when POC are not present - a necessary part of our long-term work.
Practice undoing white supremacy culture in the room, like naming perfectionism and practicing being in conflict together, so that we don’t put the burden of this work on POC.
Use mindfulness and embodiment to create long term resilience and anti-racist patterns in our bodies.
This program takes place over the course of 4 months
**SPACE IS LIMITED TO 8 PARTICIPANTS**
This Program Is For You If:
You're looking to deepen your relationship with other white people who care deeply about ending racism.
You want to build relationships that disrupt white supremacy culture.
You want more strategies around speaking up in your community and affecting change.
You appreciate reflection, self-inquiry, and connection as strategies for deepening your anti-racism work.
You find yourself sometimes hating white people, or experience distancing or shame around your own whiteness or privilege, and believe there's another way.
You've been in conflict with other white people around racism and want support and connection around it.
You want an embodied experience of how doing anti-oppression work is deeply tied to your own healing.
You have felt alone in this work and crave connection and support.
You have your own experience of oppression - for example, being disabled, female, trans, or queer - and want support and strategies around both fighting for your own liberation as well as for racial justice.
You benefit from a balance of partner and group work.
Holistic Resistance believes there needs to be a place for white folks
to be with each other & work on our material.
AND...it does not erase our work with POC-led leadership & movements.
We should respect this process as a portion of our work, not the complete picture.
White people working with accountability is an essential piece
of not putting the burden exclusively on POC to help white folks unlearn our racism.
We invite you to not leave it to People of Color to ask you
important questions about your whiteness.
We also invite you to recognize questions & feelings
that are better kept to yourself & harmful when in the presence of POC.
We have been asked by POC to ask better questions of our white peers
& really listen to the answers we hear in our communities. This series is an opportunity for white folks
to practice that in real time and to cultivate deep, long lasting relationships along the way
of the Group Zoom Calls:
There are two different cohorts to choose from.
Choose ONE of the two options:
Sundays from 6-8pm PST or Wednesdays from 1-3pm PST.
Dates of the 2:1 coaching sessions & participant calls are flexible.
***All Group Sessions will be Recorded.***
Since this is relationship-based, and learning how to process this material live in community is part of our work as white people, we encourage you to participate live as much as possible.
We may change the course each week based on what’s actually relevant in our communities,
& what aspects of white supremacy culture are active in our group that week.
i.e. if there is a need for practicing conflict, we will go there.
Session 1: Connecting, Reaching, and Growing Community
Session 2: Diving Deeper into Active Listening - Empathy, Facts, and Body Language
Session 3: Support and Emotional Release - Intro to Sessioning
Session 4: Introduction to white supremacy culture*
Session 5: Scenario 1 - Elements of white supremacy culture
Session 6: Scenario 1 - Asking better questions and trauma-informed anti-racism
Session 7: Scenario 1 - Practicing Conflict and Staying Grounded
Session 8: Program check-in and feedback and Exploring Sense of Urgency*
Session 9: Scenario 2 - Elements of white supremacy culture
Session 10: Scenario 2 - Asking better questions and trauma-informed anti-racism
Session 11: Scenario 2 - Practicing Conflict and Staying Grounded
Session 12: Embodiment Practices
Session 13: Scenario 3 - Elements of white supremacy culture
Session 14: Scenario 3 - Asking better questions and trauma-informed anti-racism
Session 15: Scenario 3 - Practicing Conflict and Staying Grounded
Session 16: Closing, Takeaways, and Continuing our Connection
*Based on the characteristics of White Supremacy Culture, compiled by Kenneth Jones, Tema Okun & their collaborators.
SAMPLE SESSION: “Perfectionism”
Grounding & check-ins: How are you feeling? How is your anti-racism work going? What do you need support or strategies around?
Active listening demo - As white folks, we are usually taught to only listen from our own cultural lens, but need to learn to listen more deeply to what people are saying, not just what we think we hear. This is a chance to practice reflecting what you heard and receiving feedback.
First partner question & active listening practice: How has perfectionism impacted your anti-racism work? What stories do you know about how perfectionism disproportionately affect POC - in your workplace, in the education system, etc.?
Break (5 min)
Group discussion - debrief first question
Strategies & support around participant’s anti-racism work from check-ins, OR second partner question: Embodiment practice. Tell a story about how your anti--racism work has been impacted by your perfectionism. Notice - how do you feel in your body? What emotions are you feeling? What strategies do you use to move through your perfectionism and your shame?
Debrief & check out: what is a takeaway from this session, and what actions will you be taking this week to end racism?
$400/month for 4 months ($1,600 total)
Accessibility is a top priority for us in anti-racism work.
Choose your payment for this 4-month program: we suggest a sliding scale of $200-$600/month.
Pay more if you are able, as it directly allows us to offer this work at accessible rates & funds our other work that we do for free.
We are committed to offering a sliding scale, particularly for LGBTQIA folks, people with disabilities, & people with low income. Please get in touch with us if you are also in need of further scholarship. We want you in this work! Payment plans are always available - email firstname.lastname@example.org to share your payment plan needs.
All workshops that focus on working with white folks on our anti-racism involve a 10% donation to organizations & individuals whose lives are marginalized by racism every day. For more info visit www.dylanwilderquinn.com/poc-solidarity.
"What are our responsibilities as white folks in anti-racism? How do we deepen our devotion to creating another way of being? White supremacy culture will constantly try to suck us back into the ways we’ve been socialized to not pay attention - and definitely don’t rock the boat.
We absolutely have a responsibility to step up as white folks in this work, but how we step up makes all the difference. Transformation doesn’t happen in a vacuum. For so long I was going at my anti-racism work alone. These systems of oppression, like racism, are huge, and they thrive when we are isolated. It wasn’t until I began deeply connecting with other white folks and building lasting relationships that I started to feel my resiliency growing and long-term strategy actually moving into action. And this work can be healing - connection and relationship cultivate another way of being.
Social justice is not just hard work - it is hard work, but when we do it community, it’s also connective. Undoing the notion we can do this by ourselves is healing, and the connection we experience in community generates more capacity for work.
Dylan Wilder Quinn
"I've been in white anti-racist communities where we were so focused on being 'the good anti-racist' that we tore each other apart with our criticism and our perfectionism, got afraid to speak up and be in conflict, and eventually burned ourselves and each other out.
Literally, in so many spaces, our own white supremacy culture keeps us from participating in anti-racism. It pushes us and other white people out of the work, which is literally the opposite of what we need to be doing as white people. It's time for something different - something that's relational and connective, and coming from a place where we ALL as white people have work to do.
It's time to support each other, to share strategies and create a sense of community based in ending racism. White people, we've got work to do.